No Expectations, No disapointments

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No Expectations, No Disappointments


Author: Righy
29 September 2010 - 9:56

“No Expectations, No Disappointments”- are the words my mom repeats often whenever I say I expect things out of all the work I do. It is quite a hard task not to expect anything back. But I really wonder at the mind set of my mom that she takes things easily even if it is hardest for anyone to digest. I have seen people, who over the years, gaining more experiance be like that.. Though, it is difficult for me, I still try practicing it.

Lets not take this statement in a sense like,we work in office without expecting salary;). This statement will apply only for people who expect more and for any deed done whole heartedly, in a selfless manner. We help our neighbours during their difficulties. We cannot expect the same concern from them.



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smishmi says;

29 Sep 2010 - 10:45
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Very true!!! If we become matured enough and content enough to make ourselves follow this rule - we will indeed be happy… Hats Off to your mom



Nitika Pathak says;

29 Sep 2010 - 11:26
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Agree with ur mom..if we will start following this we will definitely rule atleast our life..not even work wise if we will follow this in our personal life it will be helpful i guess..i will try to implement this in my personal life going forward.



new face says;

29 Sep 2010 - 12:03
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Hi Righy!!!!!!!

Read your article you seems about expecting something,

believe it or not this is my mantra that i have learned from my life

I know that it is very diffcult to accept this fact because one way or other

we expect something or the other from somebody.

One more thing is that in which I strongly believe is “Always Give your Best Shot However be prepared for the worst part also”.

You may feel that i have copied this from the movie “3 Idiots” but sorry

this is my experience till now.



Chirag says;

29 Sep 2010 - 12:05
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True .. I have faced this things very much so now I am used to.

Help somebody in his/her need but very rare chances that we will also get the same from them ..

So better to help because it makes us feel happy but forget it which makes us feel happy in future ..

I am new in bangalore and I was also feeling some expectations when I joined here as I know 3-4 guys here .. but all are in vain .. the latest incident I faced….

flushing out this only made me happy ..

I do agree with you “No Expectations No Disappointments”



Shweta Sanil says;

29 Sep 2010 - 12:20
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So Very True!!



Vivekanand says;

29 Sep 2010 - 12:29
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Wow nice thought…

“Karmanye Vadhikaraste Ma Phaleshu Kadachana” :-

“You have a right to perform your prescribed action,but you are not entitled to the fruits of your action. Never consider yourself the cause of the results your activities,and never be associated to not doing your duty.”

In short - “No Expectations No Disappointments”



Pete says;

29 Sep 2010 - 13:01
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Expectations kills satisfaction.. satisfaction is always on unreachable hierarchy.



Krithika says;

29 Sep 2010 - 13:43
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can’t agree with it more..it’s even better if ppl dont get disappointed in us jus bcos they expected too much.



Righy says;

29 Sep 2010 - 15:03
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Hi guys,

Nice to see your responses. This is a general experience many of us might have had in all our day to day endeavours. and to add to it, Only if we expect back, we get disappointed. So, lets stop expecting and keep doing what our heart says:). We will be happy that way. Shall keep practising the same.



Asha Shanmugam says;

29 Sep 2010 - 15:26
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Simple but true thought…..:)

Though words seem to be simple as it sounds they are really dfficult to practice in life and one who has started practicing them will really find the world a better place to live in…:)

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This morning

Today,as usual, I woke up with lots of hope and my routine started. I had my tea, and took a fresh bath. My mom prepared my lunch. As I  had to spend 10 extra minutes in getting ready, I had no time for my breakfast. My mom immediately dropped the breakfast in the tiffin box and packed it too with the lunch. Who can replace a mom! Its always she,sweet and caring.

 I walked hastly to catch my bus. The bus usually arrives by 8:14 am. Walking through the streets full of the smoke and dust from vehicles, I finally reached the bus stop. I was on time and the cab was delayed by 10 minutes due to the traffic.The road was untidy as ever. I was stunned to see a family dressed in rags liying on the pavement of the road. The parents were sleeping fully covered. The children, a boy 2-3 years old and his elder brother who were already awake, were seated on the steps leading to a departmental store.The elder wore rags and his hair was brown and most untidy. The pavement was covered with dirt the younger boy had no dress to wear. He was still playing merrily tieing himself with a blanket. We people talk about several silly things in our life.. I was so ashamed to see people who dont even have their basic needs of life.  All the professionals waiting for their cabs and buses walked across with no notice of them.Few of them even jumped over the pavement to catch the bus. I was astonished to see them sleep in the loud traffic sounds. I dont find sleep at times worrying about simple things.. These people, who dont even have a home, dress worry for nothing..The implied answer of their life was "Whatever happens, Life has to move on"..   Before I could even think any further, my bus arrived and the driver started to horn to wake me up from my thoughts. I boarded the bus with heart so heavy.............

My First PoV

My First Point of View

The Lessons

The Lessons

Initially, our school teaches many lessons in various subjects during our childhood. We have thought that only the teacher teaches the lessons. We read them, memorise them and give our tests & move on to the next grade. Now I feel, that has been the pracitse given by our teachers to lead the Life. At many times, we blindly do what has been told to us. Don't we?Have we ever analysed why we do & what benefit we have out of it?? It really does take time. All we need to do is think & analyse things.

But the basic line drawn for all lessons is the same. "Learn, practise and clear the test." Simple na!!?? Just match it to our life. We learn a lot of things in our day to day life. Only few of us practise it.
Those who practise, clear the tests that come across the life and be happy.
Those who doesn practise or forget things fail and create their own sorrow.
The lessons learnt are renamed as " experience". Right!!

 Do these experience bring out the right decesion?
            It depends upon our attitude. Positive attitude gives best lessons.

So the point I make here is, Do we really learn things out of life??
DO we practise and clear our tests??

Lets share our experiences and lessons learnt;

Let me start with one valuable lesson I learnt from one of my friend yesterday.
"Life is a mirror- give & get happiness back"

She has been by classmate from kinder garden till by 10th grade.
People change. Agreed. We understood well each other only a month before.
Sometimes, we interpret the lessons badly in our life. I had not been so good in choice of friends. Also, I didn have the right attitude to take the risk of winning a good friend.So, it is the attitude problem.

My childhood environment was such that I couldn make good friends. It was a month back, we had an opportunity to speak out our thoughts. This gained a good understanding between us. I felt, I had been so reserved. So, the lesson I learnt is " what we see might seem as the right decesion, but It might not be at times" Choose a good friend who can see through for you and help you out. Life will turn out to be wonderful. Hope you got my lesson too.

Happy learning!

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"Organise your thoughts"- This is the feedback I got from my Manager when I had a discussion with him. He quoted few occasions where I have made a mess while speaking  in public. Just talking whatever is the flow of thoughts in our mind, might sometimes, mislead people's perception about us. He always says, "People assume things from the way we speak". Ya. Its true. We create the first impression when we speak. What we speak & How we speak matters. It really does matter.

Write before you speak
I feel that writing our thoughts and organising it will help.

• Writing our speech & reading it once & correcting it ourselves is the first thing one can do to improve.
• Reading it in front of a mirror to know the looks will help us deliver the speech well.We are our first judge. We will know how it looks.
• Second, you can speak to a friend for his comments. This will help how the person who hears it will think about our speech.
• Practise makes a man perfect. So, need to practise a lot!

This is the area am currently working on & please feel free to give your valuable comments. This will really help me develop my skills:)

Collage- January 2010- Festios'10

Life @ wipro

Our collage topic @ Festios'10 was life @ wipro.
It was the time I was 1 year experienced in wipro. I just joined with my team mate for the event with no idea what collage is. Just browsed through internet to get some idea. Many of my collegues participated with lots of newspaper cuttings. Want to see my hands upon the collage??
We won first in the event:)

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The events- wiprocares, spirit of wipro run

sharukh- the successkhan & sania- the effort lady

We made a dice & asked everyone to play it!!

Freedom Fete'10 @ Wipro

Team effort-